LOVE SERIES II

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Ohhhhhh God, what kind of person is this guy now? why would he do things this way, is something lost in his brain? doesn’t he have common sense? in short i know what to do, i wont give him the attention anymore…

Why would she say such a thing, jeez, am i sure i didn’t make a mistake? or is she just trying to be unnecessarily stubborn? why is she behaving like someone who isn’t educated? doesn’t she know her words are hurting my ego?…

I’m so sure you wondering what’s all the gibberish i am saying, i know the thoughts in our minds would be what exactly is happening? or who and who is having a fight? i would get to the root of the matter in a minute.

Let me ask, in relation to the first aspect of this series, how many of us has LEARNT something new about our partner? what new things have we discovered? are they nice things, or unpleasant things? are they things we knew about before and didn’t really pay attention to, or things that we knew and has been improved? how did we learn it? was it a nice experience or a bad one?
not every learning experience is always good, but what matters most is the ability to learn something from it. over the years, i have grown to realize that learning is never complete if there is no communication. and this brings me to the next part of our definition of love. we are going to discover what the O stands for.

O- OPEN UP IN LOVE: i was going through the bible, trying to understand how to open up to someone i love in love, and i came through 1 corinthians 13. and in the bid of trying to rack my head around it, i was able to conclude that before i can open up in love i.e say my mind without first arguing, or having a misunderstanding, i need to

1. be patient, know when it is right,
2. be kind, say what i want to say with kindness and affection,
3. not be boastful, don’t say it like i have the right to, simply because he/she is my partner,or say it like no one cares,
4. not be rude, say what i have to say with respect,
5. not be insisting, leaving my mind open to not expect what exactly i have in mind to hear, or saying it authoritatively,
6. not be irritable, don’t have to say it the minute it happen or present the matter without properly constructing it,
7. be truthful, there is only need for proper construction and no need for hiding the truth.

I have come to the realisation that the words above and more are thoughts that go on in our head as a guy or girl concerning our partner, either when we are having a quarrel or when we are learning something about our partner. and most times they are thoughts that are left as thoughts and never expressed or expressed wrongly which leads to resentment and leads to a bad turn. truth is this, the lack of expression or the expression in a non pleasant way has led to so much mis-understanding among people either as couple or as parent-children or as friends or as siblings.

The ability to realize that we are different and to know that eating up our words wont improve the other person, rather leave the person in ignorance is needed. we need to learn to open-up in love, learn to say what we want to say in the right way. if you truly love someone, you would tell the person ways to correct or improve. let us not be the type that praises alone and never make suggestions for correction, or be the type that criticise and never appreciate.

So from the team of the ADVANtage, we are wishing you the best as you tell your partner what he/she needs to know in a way you all will be happy.
blessed day

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Oliver Twist

Oliver Twist

While growing up, I have always had the idea that when they call anyone ‘Oliver twist’ it represents something totally negative like being greedy or uncontented…

I woke this morning and I got inspired by this…

Oliver twist wanted some more food, he wasn’t satisfied with what was offered to him so he asked for more… I realize that life was designed to offer you a measure of itself, that measure on its own isn’t enough for you.

Then, I took a pen and a paper to write down the things I have that is the measure what life deposited, I am thankful and grateful to God for the blessings, yet I want more out of life than just living.

This is where most of us miss the point, we start to run after the seemingly tangible things that on the long run aren’t permanent, we forget that the reason why Oliver twist was abused was not because he asked for more, it was because of this singular fact “what have you offered, you think you can receive without giving out”- you will only stink, the scripture clearly states that anyone who gives receives and it will be in a good measure, press down, shaking together and running over shall ‘life’ give to your bosom.

With this in mind, I asked the next question, what am I offering, what can I give, the more I give out in terms of effort and energy towards the aspect I want more, the more I receive… For me, I want more love, I want more money (before nko)… It applies to everything and anything as long as life is concerned…

The more of my smiles I give, the more I get, the more of love I share, the more of love I get, the more of my resources I give out, the more I receive. It may not make sense to the ordinary mind, it could be common sense to keep and withhold, but common sense is for commoners, wisdom is for kings…

Don’t forget… its for your advantage..

BACK TO WHERE IT ALL STARTED FROM

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The ADVANtage

Valentines Day

Today is a day so many people have been waiting for to come, and here it is finally. Valentine’s day or should i say lover’s day is here. So many activities and functions just to celebrate this day and it makes it sweet because its going to be a weekend celebration, from the mall to the cinemas and all that… friday, saturday, sunday. All fun weekend.

Lets stop for a minute and ask ourselves, where did this relationship that i am now start from? how did it start? what was the attraction? were we friends? or was there a linking up? what special thing apart from the physical appearance did i see that made me decide that it’s this person i want and not any other person, on what grounds did we start off from?

Now i guess we are wondering where exactly am headed…

Sure i have a direction, and i am getting there, slow and steady wins the race.

After asking ourselves these question, one other vital question we need to ask is this, in the duration of this relationship, did what i see then still attract me now, or is it dead, or has it improved? is there a positive or negative change or it’s just static?
After the celebration today and the spill over of the weekend, would we go back to the routine, go back to the regular life we have been living, go back to the busy schedule, the fights, the arguments and all the things we do.

The point is this, i want us to take our relationships of no matter how long back to where it started from, lets allow this valentine mark the beginning of a new start for us, let’s do the things we were doing when it was all new. if we were friends, let’s relate as friends again, and bring friendship into the relationship.

I don’t know about you, but for me a same routine could be boring and killing. i like to do new things and not go through a normal route every time. Now its time to change the routes, change the game, change the rules. Take it back to where it all started from, and start off from a new routes. This time it would be better, because it’s the routes that changing, not the person.

Let this valentine period be the time you give yourselves to start off afresh and do things better than before. Lets call our valentine day, a day of fresh start.

From the whole crew of ‘The ADVANtage’, we are wishing you a fabulous valentine’s day.

Have fun, it comes only once in a year.

13 Businesses You Can Start With Little Capital

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Many today have not reached their goal, they have not attained the height at which they aspire because they are held back by both their mind and eyes. I talk of the mind because every thing that has to do with life begins with the mind, if your mind cant absorb it, then you cant live it. I talk of the eyes as a limiting factor because you tend to believe what your eyes sees. So if your eyes have seen barriers as regards finances then you tend to believe that all there is to financial breakthrough is one barrier or the other, and in the real sense… there is no barrier.

The Scriptures spell it out: “In all labor there is profit: but the talk of the lips tends only to penury [poverty]” (Prov. 14:23). “He that tills his land shall have plenty of bread: but he that follows after vain persons shall have poverty enough” (28:19).

It is important to work…

This article is to gear you towards financial freedom, it is to make you realize that there are businesses you can start with little or no capital.

In our world today, we found out that entrepreneurs (business oriented personnel) are more needed. If you look around you, you will find out that there so many needs in the society that are looking for solutions.

Catering Services:

This is actually a lucrative business for those that love cooking. You provide lunch menus for offices around you, can supply food and drinks to small key occasions around you.  Ingredients can be costly but  if you start out by doing only meal samples, then taking orders based on your samples, if your customers see that you are up to the task, then they can make deposits before you make available your services to them. After a while you can employ and train people to help you carry out the services.

Cleaning Services:

You could decide to do this yourself and you could get one or two people you know who are competent to help out in carrying the services. All you need do is approach companies or houses that you think needs someone to clean the environment, then you charge them a reasonable fee and you either get the job done or let those assisting you get it done.

Consultancy:

If you have a skill or professional training, then you can make a means by starting your consulting business. Help others run their businesses and get paid for it. But need to look out for those that will need your services and try to offer incentives to ensure continuity in flow of clients.

Day Nursery/Baby Sitting:

Nowadays many parents look for people who could help them take care of their wards while they are away at work. This is also a much needed service in the society. You don’t need capital for this business, you could make use of your private apartment to start with.
Delivery or messenger service:

If you have a car, motor cycle or even a bicycle and you have the time, then a delivery or messenger service might be the perfect business for you. You can offer to pick up or deliver food, laundry, people, letters and packages etc from various places in your community. Charge a delivery service fee. You can also most likely get additional income if you advertise clients’ services on your delivery vehicle.

Event Coordinator:

You could start with your family reunions, plan the event ,have pictures of the planned events and try to get feed back from non-family member that attended the event. Gather these pictures and feedback together, then you can show people around you telling them the things you can do regarding events planning.

Fixing Computers/Software Installation:

We are in the computer age where almost everyone has a computer and get to have to fix the computer or need to put some software on the computer. You could get about 2 weeks training (minimum) in this field and make money from this business.

Hairdressing:

Every woman wants to look good and we have a lot of the female species in our society today. If you are skilled one way or the other in this business, you can start up small and latter get necessary equipments as time goes on.

Reselling:

If you have some fund, you can buy things in bulk (which is always at cheaper rate) and then resell to consumers around you. Just try to look around for commodities that are needed most by people, get a place where you can get it at a cheaper price, then make available to consumers at a reasonable prize. (If you need help or guide on how you can start the business of reselling by importing cheap items as low as N10,000 and make as much as N300,000 in profit every month, contact us)

Soap Making:

Everyone washes one thing or the other, that means everyone basically needs soap to wash clothes, plates, toilets and bathrooms etc. Learning to make soap is actually not difficult and its a lucrative business. it requires little capital.

Tutoring:

Many of us have a particular subject/course we love and are good at while in school. You go to parents and offer to tutor their wards in a particular subject at a reasonable fee. This business is absolutely capital-free.

Web Designing:

This business is seriously demanded by the society.Almost all companies, individuals and Government establishments need websites. All you need to do is approach small businesses or individuals that needs a website and offer to create this website at a cheap rate for the start. You also need some basic skills in HTML and possibly SQL, there is a video tutorial by Business-Matter.com which can watch on your spare time to learn this skill. It’s a lucrative business. Once you have a laptop and access to the internet, you don’t need an office for this, you can work from your apartment.

Graphics Design and Printing Business:

This is what I call an evergreen, money spinning and lucrative business idea in Nigeria and the world all over. Graphics design is a business that brings in cool cash. The business is evergreen because it will continue to exist as look as people will have one program or the other, advertisement, publication, etc. The business will be much more lucrative if one is able to buy printing machine that can print different graphics works.
One can also open a shop to sell printing and graphics material. This one alone is what has being bringing steady income for some people that have already known the secret of this business.

I believe that right now, you have an idea of things you can do, just find your area of interest and tap into it… Be sure that God will definitely bless the work of your hands.

…don’t forget… its for your advantage.

THE ROD

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Few hours ago, they were filled with joy that finally they are leaving the land of bondage, though they had memorable times there, their state was one the richest, plenty of food, yet they worked as maids, wash men, truck pushers, masons, carpenters, street cleaners and the likes. when they were migrating because they had grown larger than the country, they had the opportunity to make a request from other residents in the state, they were given choice ornaments, one-in-town cloth designers. These guys had so much in their hand…

Then they got to a dead end, they couldn’t go forward, their limo-horses and feet-Benz got stuck… they were right in front of the Red-Sea… at the moment, the challenge they were staring at turned their mood sour, they complained and murmured to their stammering president who at this point didn’t know what to do.

Let me bring you home for a moment…

You were filled with so much gladness at 2013 rolled away, because you had access to The ADVANtage, you acquired a lot through knowledge. as 2014 came in, the excitement just didn’t stop… its a good thing.

Now, i am not envisaging challenges for you, but the truth be told you will see challenges, so, like these people what will you do?

Their president stammered crying up to God for help, as usual, the Almighty gave an instruction “Stretch out your hand”…

Note that the people had so much in their hand, the gold and other ornaments, what did their president have- A ROD…
As he stretched out his hand, the sea part and the people walked on dry land…

Let me bring you home once again…

Most of the time, we have believed that the secret to our breakthrough lies in beautiful possessions, we always think that until we acquire this or that before things will get  better. this taught me that the most minor possession in your hand is most of the time the catalyst to your breakthrough.

What of that job of yours, you have always thought that it is too small to make you. what about that wife of yours, you have always thought that she may not be the best person after all…

I am asking you, What is in your hand?

The moment you begin to acknowledge the insignificant minute things that you possess, then you be sure that your success rate will sky-rocket and you will always find yourself living on the advantage.

Don’t forget… it is for your advantage.

LOVE SERIES

so many times i hear around me, hey i love this guy, or i am in love with this girl. its become a regular thing among our generation that i ask myself do we all really know the true meaning of love?

normally, if i ask evri1 to start giving their opinion about what they thing love is, trust me, we wont get a similar answer and a whole rim of A4 paper wont be enough to give the different meaning of love.

but i think i can come up with a few definitions that i have heard in a while.

“love is when you show true affection to your partner, and take care of his/her needs” “love is when you put aside every other person just to stick to your partner” “to a married man, love is being there for your wife because you two have become one, and because she is the weaker vessel”

i can go on and on with various definitions of love. the way i see it, our definitions is how we see love.

i am not condemning any of the definitions, because what you see, is not what i see.

but then, i want to show us a little bit of different side to the definition of love. let’s just say i call it giving every letter a definition. the letters of love are L. O.V. E

we are going to pick it letter by letter and try to see what each means.

 L- LEARN: the major reason i like the letter “L” is because it start words like: LIKE, LIFE, LOOK, LEARN, LITTLE and so on and so forth. the one little thing i discovered with this words is the either refer to you, or someone/something around you. for example, you LIKE yourself or someone else. its your LIFE. you are either LOOKing around you or yourself or someone else, it goes on and on like that.

how many of us has tried at every point to learn something new every time about a friend, a brother, a sister, a parent, or even our spouse? the good thing about learning is that one you start, you don’t stop. so have we started learning or we feel we have known enough, or we don’t even know anything at all?

love learns. it learns every little details about whosoever it is showing itself to. the funniest thing is in even loving ourselves, we need to learn new things about our self, because we can never know ourselves completely. and if we are to love someone else as we love ourselves, it quite logical we learn something new about that person as we are learning something new about ourselves.

the thing with learning is you can never know enough, and you never stop learning. the minute you stop learning either about yourself or about the one/people you love, you actually stop loving them.

a friend said something to me one day “i am going to learn something new about you everyday, and I’ll keep a dairy of it, so that wen i feel i have enough, I’ll write a book about the things i have learnt from you”.

don’t stop learning something new about who you love. learn the good, the bad, the ugly, the tiniest details, learn them as they come, you would be surprise at what you will discover.

learning is an act of love. ladies its a two-way thing, don’t just say its only the man that should learn things about me, do also learn things about him. you just would be surprise that things he didn’t know he does, you would find it out for him.

learn something new today.

fun-filled weekend and a blessed week ahead.